Pretty Little Miss: 2012-10-07

Friday, October 12, 2012

First Love and First Heartbreak

"There's no love like the first." - Nicholas Sparks

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Do you remember your first love? How about your first heartbreak?

I've asked a friend of mine to tell and share her story about her first love and first heartbreak.

Her name is Therese. She is 19 years old. And this is her story.

"I am just like most teenager nowadays who experienced falling in love and being in love. My love story started when i was in my 2nd year in college. The guy had been my high school classmate and we are not friends either. We hated each other and we often argue. In short we are like cats and dogs. Until college came and we both studied at the same university. At first it was awkward having him around, seeing him more often and being with him. But later on I got to know him better. He wasn't that bad after all. We became friends and the least I expected that he likes me. He confessed his feelings but I turned him down. But he still pursue. He courted me even if I kept on pushing him away. little did I know that something had bloom inside my heart. I had slowly fell in his trap and later I realized that I was then in love with him. He became not only my boyfriend but also my bestfriend. He's there through my ups and downs. He brings out the best in me. He taught me what true love is. We really loved each other. Until one day everything changed. We broke up. There is no such things as forever. We lasted 11 months and 20 days. When we broke up I faced my greatest heartbreak. It was not easy to let go but I had to. Life must go on despite the pain and heartaches. It was hard to move on but my family and friends helped me. Their constant care and comfort helped me to get out in this situation. Now I refused to go back but rather look forward on what tomorrow might bring."

- Therese

Truly, falling in love is a great feeling specially when it is your first. But having your first heartbreak is a thing that you don't want to feel or experience. But no one can free themselves from these things because everybody falls in love and experienced love. It is up to you on how you will face these things. Like Therese, she chose to move on and live her life. Love is a choice.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wkksAjvOE5Q

- Katherine Kaye C. Apostol ♥

Today's Romeo and Juliet

Romeo and Juliet (Shakespeare), Maria and Tony (west side story), Daniel and Catarina (Walang Hanggan) different people same love story. Two different families in the state of rivalry. A Love that needs to conquer all odds.

Love knows no boundaries. Love Conquers all. Fight for the person you love. Never give up, love is always worth fighting for. No can accuse you of falling in love with the wrong person, if inside you know he is the one. Love isn't suppose to be easy, its suppose to be worth it.

When you read and hear these words, fighting for love sounds so easy. But what if one day you stand in the situation. When the world tells you he's not the one and that you do not deserve him. When parents intrude and try to keep you two apart. When everybody is questioning you if the love is even worth fighting for. When everything and eveyone is poining out that what you have is wrong love. Would you still hold on? would you still fight for love? Would you still think he or she is the one?

Ana a college girl and daughter of a well known family has lived her life trying to meet the expectations of her parents and John a happy go lucky guy, who flows with life just as it is. Their paths crossed, became friends and after 3 months were together and happily in love. At the intro of their relationship people were surprised and more so were Ana's parents.

At the first month there was an ongoing disagreement between the parents of Ana and John. And both parents want Ana and John separated. Ana fought for john and every night cries thinking if the the tears and fight is worth is or what would john do if he is in the situation or is he even doing the same? The two met one night, talked and to Ana's surprise the first time she saw john cried. John was defending the same thing Ana was doing with her parents ("hindi naman ung magulang mo ung linigawan ko kundi ikaw", "sayang lang lahat kapag naghiwalay tayo", "hindi naman sila ung masasaktan") and both promised to never let go ("i love you, basta walang bibitaw".)

Both parents finally agreed to let it be, still John could feel the awkward treatment of Ana's parents to him unlike his parent's treatment to Ana making her feel a part of the family ("ang sa akin lang, basta mahal ang anak ko mahal ko rin yan, tatanggapin namin.") . The next two months were going smooth, ok and happy, but just like any other relationship they went through small, big and tough fights. Days and another month passes by and John started to change. There were more doubts, fights, coldness and misunderstanding (hindi ko alam kung ano pang kulang sa akin." "Minsan iniisip ko kung ginamit mo lang ako pang display o panakip butas sa ex mo." "Your too perfect para mapunta lang sa akin." and before their seventh month, Ana decided to finally let go ("yung nag iba ka, yung pag neglect mo, pag take for granted lahat yan tiniis ko kasi umasa akong magbabago ka, pero yan mukhang hndi na." "dati ko pa gustong bumitaw kaso tiniis ko lahat kasi may promise tayo, walang bibitaw diba at mahal kita", "hndi n b pdeng ayusin ntin toh" "ayoko na.", "i'm sorry ").

Ana went to her province broken hearted and hoping that the time and place would heal her heart. The first two months of moving on felt like hell for Ana. Crying every night and hiding the pain in the morning. June, Ana went back to Manila. She devoted her time with friends, college and mostly sports. Ana tried every day to avoid john until he messaged her. John wants Ana Back into his life again and Ana knowing how much John broke her heart gave him time to make up with his mistakes and eventually planned to get back together.

Ana told her friends and it was a little easy and when it was time to tell her parents of it, she was more than worried. Talking to her mom first didn't turned out the way she wanted and understands the point of her mom. That night Ana texted John that getting back together is not a good idea. She's ending everything. John was sad but eventually accepted the decision. The next day in the afternoon, Ana received a text from an unkown number telling her how much of a lost it is ("alam mo ung nasa harap na kita pero hndi pa din kta makuha", "anong gusto mo magpaparty ako na wala na tayo". "t*ng ina! akala ko pde na tyo mging masaya ulit, tapos by the end of the day malalaman ko last na yun."). That night Ana met up with john. Both were in a serious conversation about the situation they are in, still has decided to be back together without the knowledge of their parents.

The next months of being back together were happier than before, Ana loved John better now and is now more mature in handling their relationship. Still the ongoing feud between Ana and John's parents are still existing making it hard for them to reveal. As to John's parents they are ok with the two getting back but the opposite to Ana's parents. Ana and John are not keeping this forever but just waiting for the perfect time and enjoying the moment together.

According to Ana no love is perfect and you cannot dictate love. You cannot tell one person to not love that person if you are not in the situation. If you are not feeling the same way she feels. Ana is not saying that she's a hundred precent sure that John is the one or she can see a future with john but for all she knows, they are in the process of making things better. That as long as she is happy and in love with the guy she is with today, only time and god knows if he is the one in the future. Love is not an instant thing and so is a relationship. Its needs time, effort, understanding and chance for better things. As a couple, you grow together and from there you make it worth while.

They do say that do not base your relationship decisions on other people's advice, coz they are not the ones who will stick with the results or suffer the consequences. Follow your heart but bring your mind with you. Live young and enjoy your youth, so that when your old you have something to reminisce and laugh at.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TGmGlrgbEAM

BLOGGER: SARA JESSICA SANCHEZ <3 :)

Moving on

and

Long term relationship with oneself

Having been in a relationship makes an individual to feel, to do, and to enjoy certain things. it is when you feel that you are cared and loved by your special someone. but what if one day, that someone break your heart and left you? How long will it take for you to move on and forget all the feelings and the things you used to do together? Would you dare to go into a relationship after a week, a month or even a year?

Well I guess it really take enough and quite some time to move on to a certain person in which you spend most of your time with. "Time heal all wounds"- a true and effective saying. teenagers nowadays do not appreciate that much the real meaning of "enjoying you teenage years" and about "taking their time wisely".
now, let us be inspired from this one ordinary college student as she whole-heartedly let us know and even feel her deepest feelings, insights and realizations when it comes in moving on and having a long time not engaging into a relationship, depending on no one but to herself and having more time loving no one but herself.

She is a fourth year Accountancy student. The first and last time she had a relationship was when she was in third year high school student. her first love was so magical though it was during high school days. the relationship went well until one day, with no valid reason her boyfriend left her because he fell out of love. She's so much in love but unfortunately her partner gave up.

It took her so much time, really a hard time in moving on from that terrible experience. Everywhere she went had a memorable experience together with her ex-boyfriend. Moving on was not really an easy task especially to teenagers, she said. for her, a heartbreak can make her whole life a misery.

until now, she is still single, loving herself even more and at the same time waiting patiently for God's perfect time to give her the best man that can love her truly and unconditionally. along her journey, suitors and other boys came along her way but she ignored it. her consistent prayers to our Almighty God made her realize not to look for love but instead take the opportunity to love and know more about herself. According to her, love is everywhere. So why spend so much time looking for someone to love? God has better and greater plans for us. All we just need id to wait patiently for the perfect time. At times, we may give up and think it's all useless but we must put in our minds that after all, it was all WORTH THE WAIT.
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-Rica Mae Pajarillo <3

MEN in LOVE

How do MEN fall in LOVE? How are they going to know if a GIRL would take them seriously? does the LOOKS really affects the capacity of individual to enter a RELATIONSHIP?

As I have interview two different person for this article, I noticed that they are really have different perspective on how they're going to be serious over a girl on the span of their relationship. The one that I have interview is really, NO DOUBT, good-looking person. Every girl in his school wants to be close to him. The other is just an average looking person but he has a good heart and take relationship as a serious matter.

When I asked the good-looking guy, (he refused to published his real name, guess he's kinda SHY :P) about his past relationship, yes, PAST, his totally single and available for over half a year already, he can't help but laugh at me. Then I wondered why he is laughing so I asked him. He told me that he really can't count the number of time he's into a relationship. He supposed that it was already TEN. Or more. As he continue, he told me that some of his relationships last only for ONE WEEK, the SHORTEST last only for ONE DAY. I was laughing so hard when I heard his answer. That made me think that he is one HELL OF A PLAYBOY! :) I also asked him if he was really serious to his girlfriends way back then, then answered me by "YES, OF COURSE. DI NAMAN AKO CHICKBOY E." That made my brow raise higher than usual. I was really confused during the span of our interview, maybe because I don't really believe in some of his words. So I asked him again, HOW DO YOU KNOW IF YOU'RE GOING TO BE SERIOUS OVER A GIRL? He just simply answered me by "PAG NALAMAN MONG SERYOSO DIN SYA SAYO" Then I asked again "HOW WILL YOU KNOW THAT?" He said that "YOU WILL SEE IT IN HER EYES. HINDI MAEEXPLAIN PERO JUST BY THE LOOKS YOU'LL KNOW THAT SHE'S GOING TO BE A GOOD GIRLFRIEND TO YOU." When I asked him why did he broke up with his girlfriends or vice versa, he said that there are things in the world that is really inevitable. But now, even if the girl's chasing after him, he now refuse to be in a relationship with them because as he said he's really looking for a girl that would wanna make him stay from the other girls. The one he would be faithful of.

On the average-looking guy's Perspective, when I asked him about his past relationship, I was never really shocked when he said that he only have FOUR girlfriends in his 21 years in this world. He's not really that handsome but he surely does have a good heart. He's very much serious with his past girlfriends but they all left him hanging. And it takes a long period of time before he gets the SWEETEST YES of the girl. He did even come to the point when he already sets his future with them. When I asked him on how will he know if he's going to be serious over his girlfriend he simply answered me with "KAPAG SIMPLE LANG SYA. WALANG ARTE. BASTA SIMPLE." So, It made me think that he's just a man who wants a plain girl, a girl that would accept him for what he is, the one who would not try to change him into something that he's not. The last question I asked him is that how will he know if the girl is serious about him, he answered me by, "KAPAG NAGSESELOS SYA".

With this two interviewee, I noticed that in love, LOOKS has really affects the capacity of every individual to be in a relationship. That's why everyone tries to look at their best always whenever they have liked someone, because it become the basis, maybe by many, of the person if they will entertain or allowed the relationship between them and the person that likes them into the getting to know each other level. And, as I interview both of them I realized that a man's brain is really on of the complicated things existing here on earth.

-CHARLENE GREYZ S. SANTIAGO

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Monday, October 8, 2012

How teenagers today value friendship

What happens when us, teenagers, don't have peers? Teens without friends tend to be more lonely and unhappy. As we spend our whole day and time at school, we just have to spend it with our friends to make it more fun staying and studying.

There comes a time when we, teenagers, more likely to share our experiences, problems, laughter and even failures with our closest friends. It is as if we don't have that much trust with our own family when it comes to saying and sharing our own experiences because of some reasons.

Friendships change as youth move into their teen years.

Teens tend to spend more time with their peers.
They are also more mobile than when younger so more time is spent with peers without parental supervision.
During the teen years, there will be increased contact with opposite-sex peers.
In the early teen years, often small groups of friends or cliques are formed which help to boost their confidence and give them a sense of identity.
Another feature of the teen years is the emergence of crowds. These are large groups of teens who gather together because they have characteristics that identify them with a particular crowd. Teens use crowds to figure out who to associate with. Crowds help teens sort peers into groups of people they would like to spend time with and those they wouldn't. Through crowds and cliques, teens show other people who they are.

-Rica Mae Pajarillo

http://urbanext.illinois.edu/familyworks/teen-05.html

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